I think the sooner we come to the realization that our anger is actually based in fear the better off we will be.
I must have read this idea somewhere. I don’t remember where I came across it. It was probably about 10 years ago and it has coloured my perceptions ever since:
Maybe I’m not actually angry with my boyfriend for not calling. What if what I am feeling is really fear that he doesn’t care enough about me to pick up the phone.
Maybe I’m not really irate with all the commuters I deal with every week on my way to work. Maybe I know the job at the end of my trek is no longer fulfilling and I’m afraid that when I finally take a step to make a change failure will meet me head on.
Maybe I’m not simply angry at all the horrible people doing horrible things in the world. Maybe I’m afraid I will never get the balls to stand up and do something about it.
Anger often feels safer than the vulnerability of being fearful.
It is okay to be afraid. Fear can give us important information about the situations we find ourselves in. However it is not okay to let fear make our decisions for us. It is not okay to allow fear to dictate our responses to challenges, big and small.
Fear stunts curiosity and learning. It is not okay to allow fear to take our potential away.
Hmmm. I wonder if this rambling has something to do with my “resolutions“… have to think about that more I guess.